“Very little is needed to make a happy life; Its all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”
I hope my last post (Its never too late to fix your life) has helped atleast a few among you to change your own perspective about your lives. If I was able to create a change in someone, then i believe that more changes are yet to happen in more people. If you ask me to quote my own life, i would say “life is a tricky maze. It confuses you at every phase of life. It could be the decisions you take in your career, the life partner you choose or even your choice of friends.” Since childhood I have grown up seeing people worrying about different matters that completely shatters their peace of living. I do wonder how different everyone’s life is. That’s the main reason behind people not being able to consider other people’s grieves. Only when you step into another person’s life, you’ll come to know how less miserable your life has been.
What my life has taught me:
1. Never depend on someone who always wishes to hurt you.
Why cant you ignore the ones who always make you cry? It would be because you never wish to loose people from your life. But that makes you go behind them even if they hurt you thousand times. Respect yourself and your dignity. Your life isn’t meant to be sad all the time. Being independent and ignoring the ones who aren’t meant for you is the first step to be taken.
2. When you feel sad, think about the ones who never have a chance to be happy in life.
We are living in a world where numerous distressful incidents take place. We have heard about the bomb attacks by terrorists, disturbing lives of Syrians, hopeless lives of Africans and many more. Sometimes the person next to you would be going through a lot in his life. Keeping all this in mind just compare your life with their’s and you will figure out how silly your matter of sadness is.
3. The rescuers.
Just imagine your last moment when your were in utter depression and the person who tried his best to make you happy. How blessed you are to have such people around you. Remember that when a group of people hurt you, on the other side you also have some pure souls to console you. No man is left alone. There are people who were born to be yours. Find them out , respect them and treat them the same way they treat you.
4. Be optimistic- ‘always’!
I love people who seek everything with a positive attitude. What you gonna earn from it is way more higher than what you get when being pessimistic in life. I have seen people who always criticize and complaint about everything. Never be with such people because they are enough capable in influencing you to be more like them. Being optimistic will help you figure out the good side of people and lead a happy life indeed.
5. Never sit idle.
Being lazy in life helps you think bad about others, figure out only the negative aspects, makes your life dead and loose all hopes in life. Is that the way you have dreamt about your life? I always mention that our life is too short. After many years when you turn back and take a look at it, you should get amazed seeing how wonderfully you have lived. That brings in more happiness, inspiring you to live further.
6. The power of a good nap.
Since a long time, I have been surprised to know how a good sleep can sort out my problems. Next time when you are done with a fight with someone, go to bed. When you wake you will feel much better which is comparatively the best thing to be done that thinking about it the whole time and turning it out worst.
7. Open up
Another medicine to cure your depression is to open up your mind to someone close. Dont pile up things in mind. Same as an electronic device even our mind has got a storage capacity. By sharing problems with someone who can really understand you and advise you to lead a better life, would help you deal it. Maybe that advise would be the turning point of your life.
8. Find out a good listener
Imagine that you are with your friend and you are sharing your problem to him. Meanwhile he gets distracted or would be busy on his phone, how angry would you be. Such an instance will make you feel that no one out there is enough bothered about you. And likewise you would transpire into a lonely soul. As Calvin Coolidge said “It takes a great man to be a good listener” . And make sure that your conversation is not completely filled with complaints and greivances. You have to be enough courteous to hear the other person too. What to give is what you receive.
9. Be productive and committed.
First of all you have to understand how valuable your life is. Being regretful of not doing anything in life is an utter waste. Meanwhile try to do something productive. It needn’t be a source of earning every time. Find out your interests. It could be anything; reading books or painting or writing or games or cooking. Indulge in it and you’ll realize how productively you have used your time and thus you’ll appear way more happier.
You have your own dignity and value of life. When a person keeps on hurting your feelings, he’s actually finding out happiness in deteroiting your life. You have got your own freedom to lead your life. It shouldnt always go according to someone else’s words. Beacause it’s you who know how deeply you have been wounded and how stronger you have to become.
11. Dont take rejections personally.
Life offers you both joy and sorrows. And mostly its through people the life practices its principles. Therefore we would see people accepting and rejecting us later, which has to be considered as a normal phenomena of life. If we sob on every rejections, then life may not move on. All these are the learning expeariences life offers you. Accept them and learn from it.
Travelling has always been my stress-buster. Whenever i feel strained, i wish to go on a trip, which won’t happen all the time. Still whenever I am on a trip, i try to occupy the window seat, be awake all the time, running my eyes through each and every things outside, feeling the breeze, listening the music being played and somehow creating my own private space to reflect. People asks me why i dont speak much while in a journey. Thats because its the only time when i question myself and find solutions for it. Travelling alone has helped me a lot as there would be no one to distract me. Travelling is almost similar to meditation; where the intention of both is to make you understand your inner self.
13. Dont hold grudges:
I have seen people who keeps on complaining and cursing the other person after being rejected. Does that make sense? While making every curse you are actually poisoning your own mind. And you are also thinking about that person all the time, which can take you into a tale of woe. If someone doesn’t need you, leave them right at the path they left you. And live your life for the ones who need you.
14. Be yourself:
I know people who always try to be like someone else. Every person has their own identity. Building up your own personality will help you to be unique in life. Consider our freedom fighters, social activists, successful entreprenuers or film stars, all have their own selfhood and never tries to be like somone else. Show the world how its to be unique and different.
15. Sense of equality:
Being an important factor, treating evryone equally is the best deed you can ever do in life. Woman or man, rich or poor, young or old, successful or jobless – no such classifications are to be made when you get closer with a person. I strongly believe that the skin tone of a person, his bank account balance or the luxuries a person enjoys aren’t what that determines his life. Its his way of being kind, respectful and good to others is what that matters. I always feel comfortable when I am with people who never boasts and praises about their possessions. I like to be with one who is humble and down to earth and never considers his own kind as a different creature.
Through this article I am just trying to convey that most of our lives are similar. When going through all these points you would have understood how alike our problems are. That’s how our lives are meant to be. As Morris West once said “If you spend your life waiting for the storm, you’ll never enjoy the sunshine.”